How To Cancel A Limiting Stereotype
 
 
Starting out in rocket science and computer technology, I was often the only woman in the room.
That’s another way of saying, the stereotype others had of me didn’t fit with the group. I was well aware of these assumptions.
 
I’ll bet you’ve had the feeling—at one time or another—that people have stuck a stereotype or label on you that made you out to be less than you are.
 
You may have felt like an outsider to their groups.
In their minds they could be thinking: 

• not important,
• not educated,
• not capable,
• not assertive,
• it could even be, “Oh, she’s a mother.” and further questions might end right there.

You can see how this limits the opportunities a person is willing to offer you.
 
It’s not a good feeling when it’s directed at you, is it? Why do these stereotypes keep popping up? Unfortunately, each of us has a little bucket in our brain that acts like an autopilot to help us survive. This would have been a good idea a long time ago, when you were being chased by a fast 4-legged creature with big teeth out on the Pleistocene Plain.
 
But today, this bucket is full of quite a few wrong assumptions.
 
Well the next question we need to ask is:  How do stereotypes die?
 
Let’s take a look at how scientists say a stereotype disappears in your brain.
1.  A stereotype disappears when it’s popped up enough times and you’ve been proven wrong
 
—or—
 
2.  A stereotype disappears when you’ve been terribly, terribly wrong—as in embarrassingly wrong.
 
What can you do to counter a negative (incorrect) stereotype about yourself that might pop up when you meet someone new? You know, when someone assumes you are less than you really are.
 
Here’s my Tip of the Week, which deals with this.
 
 
Tip: 
           
This is unpleasant to think about, but you need to do this exercise once. You must think of how others might be stereotyping you. What negative or incorrect assumptions do you think they may be making? Yucky mental game, isn’t it? Well, this is all for your benefit.
 
After you pinpoint the stereotypes and labels, work up a few sub-comments to add when you introduce yourself to someone new. These sub-comments should be designed to directly contradict what the other person might be thinking. Trust your intuition as to which one would be most beneficial in each situation.
 
You can also do this with a stereotype-breaking action—you can go out of your way to be
more reasonable, more helpful, more intelligent than the other person might expect.
 
Don’t be naïve—be prepared! Now, get out there and cancel those stereotypes, one by one!
 
 
Further Reading:
 
Podcast (just a few minutes), Working in Heels, by Nancy Clark, She’s Probably Not Important! —Don’t Let This Stereotype Happen To You
 
Podcast (just a few minutes), Working in Heels, by Nancy Clark, Can Television Change Stereotypes? —Should We Thank Cashmere Mafia & Lipstick Jungle?
 
Podcast (just a few minutes), Working in Heels, by Nancy Clark, Gender Stereotypes Hold Women Back —Those Little Put-Downs Really Do Add Up! or read it here.

Blog, Women’s Lunch Talk, by Nancy Clark, How Bad Is The Gender Gap At Work? —Do We Still Have A Glass Ceiling Because Of Stereotypes?

Website, WomensMedia, by Debra Condren, Ignore the Ambition Double Standard
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