Use Confident Language That Says, “I Can Do It!”
 
 
The “impostor syndrome” is more prevalent among women than men. You know, it’s that nagging feeling that any minute people will discover that you’re not up to a task. Relax, most of us feel that way when we accept a challenge—even a small one.
 
If you’re a woman, you know how often this self-doubt occupies your mind. It occupies a man’s mind too, but to a lesser extent. And, here’s the important fact, men don’t voice this OUT LOUD. You know what a man says when faced with self-doubt:  Of course, I can do it!
 
Now, the first tip for you is to stop vocalizing your self-doubt. The second tip is to substitute strong words for your weak vocabulary whenever you feel doubt creeping up.
 
Start substituting these phrases:
 
I know…
I’m convinced that…
I’m certain…
 
 
And stop uttering these phrases:
 
I’m not sure, but…
I feel…
I may be wrong, but…
 
 
Start bringing these phrases into the conversation—when they fit, of course:
 
a proven winner
take advantage of a unique opportunity
tell me what you need and I’ll take care of it
minimum risk and opens up possibilities
I’ll evaluate it
in my experience, response has been good
I’ll give it top priority
 
 
Tip: 
 
 Let’s say you want to talk to your boss with full confidence—and no self-doubt showing. Words are not the only concern. Your body language must be strong as well. Here’s the scenario. Knock on your boss’ door. Enter with strength—not timidly—and make eye contact. Take a minute or two before being seated—there’s power is having your boss look up to you. Sit up straight. Only use your hands to make strong gestures—especially those with an upturned palm. Don’t let your hands fiddle with your hair or jewelry or pen. You know you can do a good job of this. Give it a try!
 
Further Reading:
 
Podcast (always less than 10 minutes), Working in Heels, by Nancy Clark, Communicate Without Losing Your Authority —Assertive, Not Aggressive, Works Best For Women

Blog, Women’s Lunch Talk, by Nancy Clark, Stereotypes, Not Differences, Are Holding Women Back —Are Mars-Venus Stereotypes Barriers To Women’s Advancement?

Blog, Women’s Lunch Talk, by Nancy Clark, Leadership Using Collaboration —Collaboration For Good Leadership

Website, WomensMedia, by Kimberly Wiefling, Unmasking the Impostor Syndrome —Do you ever feel like a fraud in your professional realm?
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