http://womensmedia.com/lunchtalk/queen-bee-is-a-woman-holding-you-back/ Strategies for Success for the Working Woman Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:44:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 http://womensmedia.com/lunchtalk/queen-bee-is-a-woman-holding-you-back/comment-page-1/#comment-1112 M. Ellett Mon, 14 Jan 2008 20:11:23 +0000 http://womensmedia.com/lunchtalk/queen-bee-is-a-woman-holding-you-back/#comment-1112 I'm a co-author of "The Catty, Catty Ways of Women in the Workplace," a humorous look at the serious subject of cattiness and other negative behavior that can hold women back in the workplace, and in writing the book I took a conscious, up-close-and-personal look at the way we act at work. I think the Queen Bee syndrome and in-fighting among women at the office often comes out of fear(insecurity) and a competitiveness we are often socialized to feel in the face of another woman. It isn't that we don't want other women to succeed, but in our mixed-up, emotional minds, sometimes another woman's success translates to our own failure. When we are reminded that every woman who succeeds lays the groundwork for those who come after, and that positive reinforcement begets positive results, we stand to be a unified, powerful force that no man can shake. I’m a co-author of “The Catty, Catty Ways of Women in the Workplace,” a humorous look at the serious subject of cattiness and other negative behavior that can hold women back in the workplace, and in writing the book I took a conscious, up-close-and-personal look at the way we act at work. I think the Queen Bee syndrome and in-fighting among women at the office often comes out of fear(insecurity) and a competitiveness we are often socialized to feel in the face of another woman. It isn’t that we don’t want other women to succeed, but in our mixed-up, emotional minds, sometimes another woman’s success translates to our own failure. When we are reminded that every woman who succeeds lays the groundwork for those who come after, and that positive reinforcement begets positive results, we stand to be a unified, powerful force that no man can shake.

]]> http://womensmedia.com/lunchtalk/queen-bee-is-a-woman-holding-you-back/comment-page-1/#comment-249 Women�s Lunch Talk � What’s With This Catfighting? Fri, 06 Jul 2007 19:02:16 +0000 http://womensmedia.com/lunchtalk/queen-bee-is-a-woman-holding-you-back/#comment-249 As much as we’d like to profess, “No, there’s no such thing as catfighting at work. Women want to see other women succeed. How dare you suggest such a thing!,”  we know deep down it certainly does exist . . . and to be honest, we probably know<em>—from experience—</em>how it feels to be on each end of an encounter! See my blog posting of 7/06/07 <strong><em><font color=\"#008000\">What’s With This Catfighting?</font></em></strong><em> —Catfighting:  Learn To Handle Indirect Aggression At Work</em>. As much as we’d like to profess, “No, there’s no such thing as catfighting at work. Women want to see other women succeed. How dare you suggest such a thing!,”  we know deep down it certainly does exist . . . and to be honest, we probably know—from experience—how it feels to be on each end of an encounter! See my blog posting of 7/06/07 What’s With This Catfighting? —Catfighting:  Learn To Handle Indirect Aggression At Work.

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