"I
can’t believe I let it go this long!"
Sound familiar?
Sadly, you may have said this about important deadlines,
such as a proposal that you meant to write for a class
that you had hoped to teach, or a query letter to
convince an editor that you are the consultant
that she wants to interview for a special issue of
a magazine in your particular field--or perhaps you
intended to formulate a financial statement for a
business partner.
You haven’t really hurt anyone else, but by failing
to complete important tasks you have slowed yourself
down and made that reach for the golden ring just
a little more of a stretch.Despite the best of intentions,
your unconscious procrastination has you stalled,
and it didn’t need to happen.
Look
at Your Pattern of Procrastination
There are a number of procrastination patterns. The
"I don’t know" pattern is the one I call unconscious.
If you recognize yourself as someone who doesn’t
know where her time goes, these tips may help. You
could find that the awareness of time and what
you do with it can begin to change your life.
Begin
by Becoming Mindful - with a pencil in hand
Consciously, and completely without judgment,
start to become aware of how you spend your time.
For
one week keep a journal and write down what you do
with each 30 minutes of your day.
You
may see that you are doing things you feel you should
do, without taking the time to evaluate mindfully
which tasks you really want to do and which
are really necessary. If you are serious about
taking control of your life, I guarantee that you
will find tasks that you can modify, delegate, or
eliminate. Often, I recommend that clients follow
the guidelines provided in Take Time for Your Life
written by personal coach Cheryl Richardson who advises
"Do It", "Hire It", or "Chuck It".
Check
to see if you are neglecting tasks that should be
ongoing, things that 20 minutes a day would keep under
control, like bookkeeping or filing. If you let
these things go, it can become stomach curdling to
think about the effort needed to catch up.
Susan’s
Story
This is how Susan, a coaching client and owner
of a large retail business, changed her pattern
of procrastination (name and occupation changed to
protect identity). I saw her as an Unconscious Procrastinator,
because she spent her time jumping from one project
to the next, while postponing her ongoing record keeping
tasks, saying, "I’ll do that tomorrow." When tax
time rolled around, Susan panicked.
"I’ve
put my bookkeeping off so long, I dread doing it,
and I’m afraid what the numbers will show. I can’t
believe I let this happen again. I feel so guilty."
See
How it Could Be in a Perfect World
I asked her to focus on a vision of having her
bookkeeping up-to-date. How would she feel without
the underlying nagging guilt? How would she feel
once she was no longer expending the energy to avoid
the fear?
"I’d
feel lighter and more confident, and have a new flow
of energy that I can devote to creative ideas," Susan
told me.
Susan
agreed that she would like this to be her reality
and she was willing to take action to make it happen.
Changing
the Pattern
Susan’s next step was to estimate how long it
would take to do the paperwork. She thought she
could finish if she devoted two full days to it.
"Why
don’t you allow three days, and spend the third day
celebrating if you do get it done in two?" I suggested.
It was important for her to decide how she
likes to work and she decided to work straight through
the days rather than spread out the tasks.
The
next obstacle was actually setting the particular
days to do the work. Susan’s "I don’t know" procrastination
pattern needed to be addressed. By keeping the focus
on her vision of how she would feel when her finances
were on track - lighter and self-confident, she was
able to make new priorities and take action that would
allow her to set aside definite days.
Susan
agreed to become mindful of how she spends her time
using a daily journal. In becoming aware, she could
see how making conscious choices about time would
change her life. She then picked three days and
together we discussed potential obstacles that she
might encounter and planned how to overcome them.
Susan was successful. She completed her bookkeeping
in two days and celebrated on the third, relaxing
with friends. To her own amazement, she no longer
avoids her bookkeeping, and when she contemplates
her finances, she feels confident because she has
taken charge of her time by using an ongoing bookkeeping
system to prevent another avalanche of financial fears.
Procrastination is a time-thief that bedevils many
people who would rather be doing more of the things
they love to do.
Brook Montagna, For more
information about the patterns of procrastination,
you may want to contact Brook Montagna, M.S., Professional
Coach and owner of Mindful Life Coaching. She specializes
in coaching individuals to manifest personal, professional,
and financial success. She is co-creator of Women’s
Journey Circle, and Women’s Journey into Wholeness:
A Positive Path through Divorce to Your Authentic
Life. To contact Brook, visit www.mindfullifecoach.com, call 760-230-1305,
or e-mail brook@mindfullifecoach.com.