Use Confident Language That Says, “I Can Do It!”
 
 
The “impostor syndrome” is more prevalent among women than men. You know, it’s that nagging feeling that any minute people will discover that you’re not up to a task. Relax, most of us feel that way when we accept a challenge—even a small one.
 
If you’re a woman, you know how often this self-doubt occupies your mind. It occupies a man’s mind too, but to a lesser extent. And, here’s the important fact, men don’t voice this OUT LOUD. You know what a man says when faced with self-doubt:  Of course, I can do it!
 
Now, the first tip for you is to stop vocalizing your self-doubt. The second tip is to substitute strong words for your weak vocabulary whenever you feel doubt creeping up.

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You Have To Resort To Trickery   

There are a few things that all women seem to notice and all men don’t see at all. Alright, alright, I know I can’t say “all.” But it’s pretty nearly “all” whenever I speak to a large group of men and women and I ask this question: “Raise your hand if you’ve been in a meeting when a woman made a suggestion and no one seemed to notice?” Pretty nearly every woman will raise her hand and sadly nod her head—meaning it was her—and the men will be dumbfounded that this is the situation. Honestly women, we can’t blame the men, because they aren’t even aware of this behavior. 

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Assertive, Not Aggressive, Works Best For Women
 
 
 Women know how important communication is—and sometimes just knowing that causes a problem. Let’s say you’re anxious about talking with someone under your supervision. He, or she, is not doing the job as you’d like. You need to point out the problems, but you’re worried about coming on too strong—too aggressive, and you’re worried about the employee’s reaction. In a effort to minimize repercussions, we often add a few sentences here . . . and a few sentences there . . . and pretty soon, the message is lost.
 

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Why Did He Take That The Wrong Way?
 
 
In my podcast, Gender Communication: Nature Or Nurture? I talk about how societal pressures form quite a bit of our gender communication differences. Besides that “quite a bit” is what most mothers have observed: Little boys want to play with other little boys and they want to play differently from girls. This sets up the change in how boys and girls talk at an early age—and they diverge further from that point.  

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How To Promote Yourself Without Bragging
 
 
A lot of men can get away with bragging but we women can’t. We must walk a fine line between informative self-promotion and outright bragging. Most of us have been raised on the little girl admonitions, “It’s not nice to brag!” and “Who does she think she is?”  As long as these sayings are still playing in your mental background, you’ll feel uncomfortable when you know you’re bragging. And when you’re uncomfortable, other people focus on your discomfort. You don’t want that! The secret I can tell you is how to promote yourself just short of bragging. And that’s something you probably do want.

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Get Rid Of The “Shoulds” And Say “No” Without Guilt!      

Women, we have a problem. We want everyone to like us. Each of us wants to be the perfect employee, the perfect woman, the perfect mother. The sooner we realize this is impossible, the sooner we can be on our way to shedding guilt and easing up the time trap that’s seized us. First up, we have to start saying “No.”     

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Why Do We Have Mars-Venus Communication, And Why Is Mars More Powerful?    

I’m making this easy: The reason we have Mars-Venus communication has everything to do with nurture—it’s based on societal pressures—economic, psychological, and cultural pressures. This is Good News because it means our style of communication is not genetically inherited. In other words, it can be changed—easily changed. I say let’s go for it! It’s the main reason working women do not have the same power as men.

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