See Why The Time Is Right For Women In Business

I’m sure you’ve observed that women are not treated equal to men in business. But have you observed that we’re at the Tipping Point for a major change? Did you know there are only 2 things you need to do to help yourself and to help other women?

In this Working In Heels episode, I explain what the 2 things are and I set up the format for the following weeks. Each week I’ll give you a success strategy to discuss with other working women. If you discuss it over lunch, it’ll be even more fun!

 Episode 1 - Listen To This First [8:14m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Use Confident Language That Says, “I Can Do It!”
 
 
The “impostor syndrome” is more prevalent among women than men. You know, it’s that nagging feeling that any minute people will discover that you’re not up to a task. Relax, most of us feel that way when we accept a challenge—even a small one.
 
If you’re a woman, you know how often this self-doubt occupies your mind. It occupies a man’s mind too, but to a lesser extent. And, here’s the important fact, men don’t voice this OUT LOUD. You know what a man says when faced with self-doubt:  Of course, I can do it!
 
Now, the first tip for you is to stop vocalizing your self-doubt. The second tip is to substitute strong words for your weak vocabulary whenever you feel doubt creeping up.

 Be Confident, Cover Your Self-Doubt [4:40m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Business and Emotions (In Control) Are A Good Mix   

Nearly every female executive I’ve talked with has admitted to crying at work. Their stories usually follow the same pattern. 

They tell me, “I burst into tears—early in my career—and was mortified at what I was doing. I had lost complete control of myself. It didn’t matter what other people thought of me as much as what I thought of myself. I have to make sure this NEVER happens again! “ Then each woman then began to develop her own techniques to put into action whenever she felt this might start happening again. And the good news here is that the high-level executives I talked with said they’ve learned to control this behavior.    I’ll give you 7 steps to follow and a Tip of the Week.

 Is It OK If Big Girls Cry In The Office? [8:27m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

You Have To Resort To Trickery   

There are a few things that all women seem to notice and all men don’t see at all. Alright, alright, I know I can’t say “all.” But it’s pretty nearly “all” whenever I speak to a large group of men and women and I ask this question: “Raise your hand if you’ve been in a meeting when a woman made a suggestion and no one seemed to notice?” Pretty nearly every woman will raise her hand and sadly nod her head—meaning it was her—and the men will be dumbfounded that this is the situation. Honestly women, we can’t blame the men, because they aren’t even aware of this behavior. 

 When Men Won’t Listen To You [4:52m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

If A Company Is Not Female-Friendly, It’s Probably Suffering A Loss   

Women are starting businesses at twice the rate of men. Could that be true? Yep, it is. Why are they doing this? Is it the glass ceiling? What kind of businesses? Are they getting financing? What are the Good News Changes? Let’s discuss it.  

 Female Entrepreneurs Are Starting Twice As Many Businesses As Men [6:29m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

A Study Shows Women are Harming Women!   

We’ve all encountered a Queen Bee. We know of that woman who wants to be the only female working with men. That’s one rationale. The other one I suspect is that she’s thinking, “I had to work twice as hard as a man to get here . . . so I’m making sure you don’t get it any easier!” If you’re working for a Queen Bee, that’s tough, really tough. She’s a gatekeeper to the glass ceiling—she demands a higher performance from a woman than from a man.   

 The Queen Bee: Is A Woman Holding You Back? [5:28m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Women’s Intuition Is A Valuable Tool  

Research has shown that women can more quickly decipher facial expression, moods, and voice tones. My advice to women is, “Don’t let this intuitive talent go to waste. This is a valuable tool you can use to your advantage in business. Remember that it’s next to impossible to put your intuitive feelings into words, so don’t let others push you into that time-consuming canyon. My Tip of the Week will help with your explanation to others.    

 Women’s Emotional Insight [6:22m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Assertive, Not Aggressive, Works Best For Women
 
 
 Women know how important communication is—and sometimes just knowing that causes a problem. Let’s say you’re anxious about talking with someone under your supervision. He, or she, is not doing the job as you’d like. You need to point out the problems, but you’re worried about coming on too strong—too aggressive, and you’re worried about the employee’s reaction. In a effort to minimize repercussions, we often add a few sentences here . . . and a few sentences there . . . and pretty soon, the message is lost.
 

 Communicate Without Losing Your Authority [5:07m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Don’t Hurt His Masculinity
 
 
I’ve told you before, women don’t have it easy—it’s not a level playing field out there at work. Men do have it much easier, but that’s no reason to ignore their difficulties! In fact, ignoring their difficulties can cause a world of trouble for you!
 

 Warning For Women Working With Men: Don’t Wound The Bull [5:45m]: Play Now | Play in Popup

Collaboration For Good Leadership
 
 
I’ve been receiving requests for more information on leadership styles for women. Of course, the same leadership style will work no matter if you’re a man or a woman, but the questions have been phrased to indicate many women are not comfortable with the autocratic style of leadership, where the leader dominates the team with a one-sided approach to reach an objective.
 
If you’re not comfortable with that style, there are other choices. Collaboration is one that many women tend toward—what I mean is they can be really, really good at it!

 Leadership Using Collaboration [6:35m]: Play Now | Play in Popup