Working In Heels Podcast

Episode 1 - Listen To This First

nclark — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 00:52:49 +0000

See Why The Time Is Right For Women In Business

I’m sure you’ve observed that women are not treated equal to men in business. But have you observed that we’re at the Tipping Point for a major change? Did you know there are only 2 things you need to do to help yourself and to help other women?

In this Working In Heels episode, I explain what the 2 things are and I set up the format for the following weeks. Each week I’ll give you a success strategy to discuss with other working women. If you discuss it over lunch, it’ll be even more fun!

Be Confident, Cover Your Self-Doubt

nclark — Fri, 09 May 2008 20:51:21 +0000

Use Confident Language That Says, “I Can Do It!”

The “impostor syndrome” is more prevalent among women than men. You know, it’s that nagging feeling that any minute people will discover that you’re not up to a task. Relax, most of us feel that way when we accept a challenge—even a small one.

If you’re a woman, you know how often this self-doubt occupies your mind. It occupies a man’s mind too, but to a lesser extent. And, here’s the important fact, men don’t voice this OUT LOUD. You know what a man says when faced with self-doubt: Of course, I can do it!

Now, the first tip for you is to stop vocalizing your self-doubt. The second tip is to substitute strong words for your weak vocabulary whenever you feel doubt creeping up.

Power For Women

nclark — Thu, 01 May 2008 20:50:03 +0000

Successful Women Use Power Differently Than Men

I believe women see power differently from the way men do. Women see power in terms of influence, rather than rank. Successful companies today are going into the relationship mode. They’re focused on customer relations, and joint ventures with partners and suppliers. The winner-take-all form of negotiations does not sit well with companies you might want to partner with next year. It’s all about relationships now—and women are comfortable forming relationships.

Is It OK If Big Girls Cry In The Office?

nclark — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 18:27:12 +0000

Business and Emotions (In Control) Are A Good Mix

Nearly every female executive I’ve talked with has admitted to crying at work. Their stories usually follow the same pattern.

They tell me, “I burst into tears—early in my career—and was mortified at what I was doing. I had lost complete control of myself. It didn’t matter what other people thought of me as much as what I thought of myself. I have to make sure this NEVER happens again! “ Then each woman then began to develop her own techniques to put into action whenever she felt this might start happening again. And the good news here is that the high-level executives I talked with said they’ve learned to control this behavior. I’ll give you 7 steps to follow and a Tip of the Week.

When Men Won’t Listen To You

nclark — Wed, 23 Apr 2008 00:03:20 +0000

You Have To Resort To Trickery

There are a few things that all women seem to notice and all men don’t see at all. Alright, alright, I know I can’t say “all.” But it’s pretty nearly “all” whenever I speak to a large group of men and women and I ask this question: “Raise your hand if you’ve been in a meeting when a woman made a suggestion and no one seemed to notice?” Pretty nearly every woman will raise her hand and sadly nod her head—meaning it was her—and the men will be dumbfounded that this is the situation. Honestly women, we can’t blame the men, because they aren’t even aware of this behavior.

Female Entrepreneurs Are Starting Twice As Many Businesses As Men

nclark — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 22:42:40 +0000

If A Company Is Not Female-Friendly, It’s Probably Suffering A Loss

Women are starting businesses at twice the rate of men. Could that be true? Yep, it is. Why are they doing this? Is it the glass ceiling? What kind of businesses? Are they getting financing? What are the Good News Changes? Let’s discuss it.

The Queen Bee: Is A Woman Holding You Back?

nclark — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 19:01:06 +0000

A Study Shows Women are Harming Women!

We’ve all encountered a Queen Bee. We know of that woman who wants to be the only female working with men. That’s one rationale. The other one I suspect is that she’s thinking, “I had to work twice as hard as a man to get here . . . so I’m making sure you don’t get it any easier!” If you’re working for a Queen Bee, that’s tough, really tough. She’s a gatekeeper to the glass ceiling—she demands a higher performance from a woman than from a man.

Women’s Emotional Insight

nclark — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 22:53:08 +0000

Women’s Intuition Is A Valuable Tool

Research has shown that women can more quickly decipher facial expression, moods, and voice tones. My advice to women is, “Don’t let this intuitive talent go to waste. This is a valuable tool you can use to your advantage in business. Remember that it’s next to impossible to put your intuitive feelings into words, so don’t let others push you into that time-consuming canyon. My Tip of the Week will help with your explanation to others.

Communicate Without Losing Your Authority

nclark — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 23:23:19 +0000

Assertive, Not Aggressive, Works Best For Women

Women know how important communication is—and sometimes just knowing that causes a problem. Let’s say you’re anxious about talking with someone under your supervision. He, or she, is not doing the job as you’d like. You need to point out the problems, but you’re worried about coming on too strong—too aggressive, and you’re worried about the employee’s reaction. In a effort to minimize repercussions, we often add a few sentences here . . . and a few sentences there . . . and pretty soon, the message is lost.

Warning For Women Working With Men: Don’t Wound The Bull

nclark — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 19:13:13 +0000

Don’t Hurt His Masculinity

I’ve told you before, women don’t have it easy—it’s not a level playing field out there at work. Men do have it much easier, but that’s no reason to ignore their difficulties! In fact, ignoring their difficulties can cause a world of trouble for you!